This week I am thinking of the people that come in and out of our lives.
People pass before us, walk along side of us, and sometimes crash into us.
Picture a NY city street where you hurry along in your own world… beside millions of people rushing along in theirs.
Then there are moments where you briefly meet someone who impacts your life greatly in their mere existence. You don’t get to know them well but their being, their lesson; their example inspires you to be better.
There are people who stay for a time. They may challenge you with negativity or views that are so foreign to you that it’s difficult to wrap your head around.
Then others…the people so special the love you feel for them extends beyond your heart, fills your entire body, and seeps out of you and onto everyone you meet. Sometimes they stay forever and sometimes they are taken from you too soon.
Conflict occurs for two primary reasons.
- You don’t appreciate others for who they are. Relationships falter when unrealistic expectations are not met. When we appreciate others for who they really are, and not who we want them to be, we connect on a level that brings joy to the heart. In business, we spend too much time trying to teach people out of their weaknesses instead of cultivating their strengths. Allowing employees to focus on their unique, complimentary talents will help you become more profitable far faster than forcing people into a role that doesn’t suit them.
- You hold on too long. Often times we stay friends with negative people who gossip, complain, or put us down. We feel badly removing them from our lives because they’ve been there so long. This happens in business as well. Many business owners intuitively know that an employee is bringing down the team or that the energy they sap far exceeds the benefit they bring. The time and resources put into forcing a fit would be better used cultivating the talents of people with a desire and positive attitude. Understanding how people impact us and that we deserve the best relationships will allow us to limit the time we spend with negative people and instead surround ourselves with the ones who empower.
Embrace each connection. Allow others to be exactly as they are without an expectation that you must change them. Every person that comes into your life is there for a reason. A lesson perhaps? Or a special heartfelt moment.
Respect yourself and know you deserve to have a life filled with beautiful relationships…for however long they are meant to be.
Action Step: For today…see each person you meet for their special inherent worth. Remove any judgment you have for or about them. All people desire to be seen and appreciated. Let me know what happens for you today…how it makes you feel and how the people in your life respond to it. firstname.lastname@example.org.
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