…You Can’t Always Get What You Want.

Rough week coming to an end.

I’m sitting in my powder blue recliner looking at the track lighting, listening to music, obsessing about what to write in my weekly blog…

And I hear the Rolling Stones song- You can’t always get what you want.

Ah…the irony.   Ever been in conflict with what you know to be true and what you are feeling in the moment?

  1. I know (and teach) that when you strive for things; when you put your wishes out there- the likelihood of them occurring increases exponentially.
  2. And yet- a part of me is hearing this song and thinking “maybe if I stop wanting things so desperately they will come…naturally.”

What comes naturally- breath, a feeling of connection with the earth due to gravity, the need for love and sustenance?

What comes because you want it badly enough? …everything else.

“Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.” Dalai Lama

I was talking with a client the other day and she was questioning me about her desire to have something happen.  All of a sudden she looked at me and said, “Maybe I’m not supposed to have it!” 

Has it ever happened in your life where you ended up with something that upset you greatly but later on realized that it was exactly what you needed in the moment?

For example I didn’t want the car to be totaled.  But it kept me from going on the trip that made everyone sick.  I didn’t want to injure my foot but it led me back to college.  I didn’t want to lose that job that led me to think about becoming an entrepreneur.  Everyone can look back on their lives and think about the fact “you can’t always get what you want” and realize they “got what they need”.

Come on- be in the moment with me- look up at your track lighting and think about what you need. 

Stop asking for what you want and start looking for the opportunities that surround you.  Maybe you are right where you need you to be.  And instead of fighting it think about how these lessons are serving you.  Right here.  Right now.

…but if you try sometimes, you just might find…you get what you need!

Action Step:  What is going on in your life right now that you are fighting?  Stop fighting it for a moment and think about how it can serve you.  How can this issue, this problem, this situation be exactly what you need in this moment in time?


About FindYourFire

Writer, speaker, and life coach Heather O'Neill is president of Progressive Image and creator of the Fire in Five program...helping people reconnect and find the joy in their lives.
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